GUEST BLOG: A TREE FOR ME 🎄
Making solo celebrating meaningful
I asked her permission to share it more widely, and she graciously agreed.
READ MORE HERE ABOUT HOW ONE WOMAN’S CELEBRATING SOLO — AS ARE SO MANY OF US IN THIS YEAR OF SEPARATION IN THE NAME OF SAFETY — IS IMBUED WITH SOULFUL MEANING.
💌 Here’s the email Carole sent to us:
Hi Guys. Wanted to share my tree, put up over the last three days. At least half the ornaments have special meaning for me. Some I bought on trips—Scotland, Iceland, Turkey, France. I got the fabric at the base of the tree in Slovakia where my mother’s family is from.
Some ornaments are from trips with my kids—Wisconsin, San Francisco, South Carolina. I bought a penguin year after year for my daughter. One ornament was painted by my son when he was a little guy. A few were on the tree when I was a child.
Those of you who were with me in the first Moxie class can zoom in to see a mermaid at the very top of the tree —bought on a very artsy trip several years ago in a shop that celebrated Freida Kahlo. A few my mother made by hand. Unwrapping them year after year connects me to so much of my life.
AS I PUT THEM ON THE TREE MY MOTHER’S “RULES” ARE FIRMLY IN MIND. EACH SHOULD HANG STRAIGHT AND FREE, NO TOUCHING THE BRANCH BELOW (I BEND THAT ONE). ICICLES AND HEARTS GO ON AT THE VERY END—THEY’RE VISUAL PUNCTUATION. SIMILAR SHAPES AND COLORS SHOULDN’T HANG TOO CLOSE.
She was perhaps extreme. When the heavy metallic tinsel—which she put on strand by strand and then trimmed to the right length—was no longer available, she threaded miniature Christmas balls on strands of the flimsy lightweight stuff you could get at the five and dime and tied them on the tree one by one so that each was the perfect length and they wouldn’t flutter as you walked by. The tiny balls reflected the tree lights, which made her more happy.
You need to know my mother worked in a factory at night and had few outlets for artistic expression. The Christmas tree was one for her and it was exquisite always. I think of her especially at this time of year; perhaps my tree is some celebration of her spirit. In this year bereft of so much I knew I should do the tree despite the fact that no one else (except for you maybe!) would see it.
It is soul care for me for sure and I will enjoy it for several weeks to come. (I’ve also got a thriving amaryllis just a few steps from the tree. It’s looking like it may bloom by Christmas!)
I’m sending some ornaments to my kids in the next couple of days. They will have their own trees this year and I hope they will find meaning here as well. Sorry for the long and so personal email; I wanted to share.
Wishing you all a meaningful, soulful season!
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Drop a comment below and share what you’re doing for YOU this holiday season — let’s share ideas!!
HERE’S TO THAT LIGHT OF YOURS SHINING BRIGHT, BRIGHT BRIGHT.
If you’re interested in learning more about listening for what your Soul desires — and having that be a guiding light in your life — I invite you to check out Moxie’s Soul Care Masterclass. Living lusciously, practicing radical self-reverence, self care that goes deep…it’s a pretty awesome experience.
Reach out to me if you hear something for yourself in this, and we can chat about it.
Meanwhile, I hope you’re paying extra attention to creating a beautiful experience for your Self and your Soul this holiday season. Women in particularly are wired around creating a beautiful experience for everyone else — but when you leave yourself out of the equation, it dims your gorgeous light. 🧡
With love and moxie,
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