YOUR LIFE, YOUR MOVIE 🎥

 

Being the heroine of your own story.

Would you pay $13.50 for a ticket to watch the movie of your life in a theater? 

 

Would you set aside two hours, even, to watch it for free on Netflix, when you could be watching Queer Eye instead?

 

NOT SURE? I FEEL YA. SOMETIMES I’M NOT SURE ABOUT MY OWN EITHER, AND I’VE HAD SOME PRETTY MOVIE-WORTHY MOMENTS IN MY TIME ON THIS EARTH.

 

But when you’re in the middle of a pretty ordinary chapter — or when you’re feeling sad or invisible or bored for whatever reasons…or no reason — it can be hard to feel inspired or excited. And by mid-January, our online worlds are chock full of people getting super excited about best-year-ever strategies for the New Year, some of which are being created poolside in Bali. Yikes. What’s a gal looking out the window at gray skies to do?

But about last night.

Brittany Runs a Marathon—have you seen it? Chris and I watched it, and it was perfect Monday night fare, all hopeful and funny. (We alternate between movies with rooftop chase scenes and detonations…and movies like Brittany Runs a Marathon. Love can make you do things.)

👆Btw, there’s a movie trailer on the other side of that link, plus an interesting story about the lead actor, Jillian Bell, who herself transformed while making this film about body weight, reinvention and self-discovery.

Kind of a fun rabbit hole.

 

AS I WAS WATCHING IT AND RELATING IN MORE WAYS THAN ONE WITH HER STRUGGLES, I WAS STRUCK BY THE WAY I WATCH A SCENE IN A MOVIE VERSUS ONE UNFOLDING IN MY OWN LIFE. WHEN I AM SNUGGLED ON MY SOFA WATCHING THE MAIN CHARACTER HIT BOTTOM IN HER LIFE, I AM ROOTING FOR HER AND AT LEAST IN MY HIND BRAIN ANTICIPATING WHAT’S COMING. I MEAN, COME ON, A BLEAK-GETTING-BLEAKER-AND-OH-SHIT-THIS-ENDED-BADLY MOVIE IS NOT WHAT WE’RE USUALLY WATCHING, IS IT?

 

If you knew that a low moment of your own was one of those scenes setting the stage for great things coming later in your movie…wouldn’t that make it quite a bit easier to work that mojo of yours with some sass and confidence?

 

When I scan my fave movie list I keep on my phone, most of them are ultimately about transformation. Triumph of the human spirit. Inspiring stories that make me fond of the human race, despite a few seemingly bad apples here and there.

Here are some of mine, in no particular order:

Wings of Desire

Little Miss Sunshine

The Big Sick

Silver Linings Playbook

The Big Night

Chef

Ideal Home

Oh, and that classic woman-hits-emotional-bottom-and-emerges-triumphant-movie, Under the Tuscan Sun. (Italian villas! Wine from sun-soaked vineyards! Impetuous and soul-stirring love affairs! Be still my heart!!)

But I digress.

The point is this: The Moxie Soul Care Masterclass includes a fantastic (if I do say so myself) exercise in which we look at your life as a movie. And I’m sharing some of it with you here, so you can give it a twirl on your own if you like.

 

When you think of your life as a movie, it’s easier to view and interact with it as a created phenomenon—a malleable, pliable, totally transformable work of art. Your work of art.

 

You are the author.

 

You write the screenplay, handle casting all the major roles, determine the location, design the costumes, the whole thing. (You even promote the movie and sell the tickets, don’t you?!)

 

During a Moxie Soul Spa, we play with the various elements of your movie. And for each one, we wind up with both REFLECTIONS on both the current status…and how you want it to be, and RADICAL SELF-REVERENCE IN ACTION: Ideas, desires, plans, and a few promises (including a Sacred Promise, but that’s a whole ‘nother story).

Imagine going on a massive creative riff in each of these categories:

 

LOCATION: Where will you be?

 

SET DESIGN: What does your space look and feel like?

 

COSTUMES: How does our heroine choose to express herself?

 

SOUND: What’s the soundtrack of your movie like?

 

CASTING: Who’s in this movie with you?

 

PLOT: So…what’s gonna happen?!?

 

 

ONE OF THE BEST THINGS ABOUT THIS: WHILE WE DON’T SPEND A LOT OF TIME LOOKING BACKWARDS, IT CAN BE PRETTY DAMNED EMPOWERING TO SEE SOME OF THE PAST CRAP YOU’VE DEALT WITH IN THE CONTEXT OF AN INGENIOUS PLOT TWIST.

 

Awesome, yes? Those times when the main character of your movie was hit with some major challenge, or hit upside the head with a cosmic two-by-four, those were plot twists, dammit. Cuz watch you now! (Cue your best inspiring anthem music here. See where sound can come in??)

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Are you familiar with the late, great Nora Ephron, the wildly witty and talented writer and filmmaker? She passed a few years back, but will live on forever for me. If you’ve never seen the documentary Everything Is Copy — Nora Ephron: Scripted & Unscripted, I highly recommend. The “everything is copy” comes from Nora’s screenwriter mother, who would say that anytime something tragic would happen. Nora herself took the tough times of her own life and spun them into gold: she spent 6 months crying about her divorce, and then she wrote it funny, says one talking head, “And in writing it funny, she won.” And thus we have the novel and then wildly successful movie, Heartburn.

 

AM I SUGGESTING YOU ACTUALLY WRITE A SCREENPLAY ABOUT YOUR LIFE? I MEAN, YOU PROBABLY COULD, RIGHT? (WHO WOULD PLAY YOU IN THE MOVIE?!)
 

You don’t have to make an actual movie for the big screen, however, to win big. You can simply crank up your creativity and step into that protagonist role you’re already playing.

 

You get to say how this movie goes.

 

Just a reminder, however: You don’t have all day, if you follow my drift. This movie will end some day, whether you plan it or not. And wouldn’t it be great to have what’s left of the movie be so damned inspiring and uplifting you can hardly stand it?

Please pass the popcorn, plenty of butter and truffle salt, please. I can’t wait to see what happens next.

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What are some of YOUR favorite movies, and what mood do they create for you?

And what kind of movie do you want to make with YOUR life?

If you’re curious to know more about the Soul Care Masterclass experience, gimme a shout and we can chat.

Meanwhile, let’s talk movies and life! 🎥💃🏽

Hit me up in the comments below!

 
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With love and moxie,

Deb


 

 

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