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Elle

Aliveness training for wild-hearted women.

A five-week live practice for women who can feel something calling - even if they cannot fully name it yet - and want the courage, company, and right-sized structure to begin moving from the life they actually have.

Five live gatherings beginning Tuesday, September 29

September 29 and October 6, 13, 20 & 27, 2026

Tuition: $697

Enrollment closes September 28.

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You came here following something.

A pull. A hunch. A something is calling and I do not quite have the words for it yet.

Maybe your life is largely good. Maybe parts of it are not. Maybe you have built something the world calls a success, or something quieter you have never had to defend. Either way, there is a part of you that is still in motion - and you know it, even when you cannot quite explain it.

Perhaps it’s a conversation you keep postponing. A book, class, trip, room, relationship, business idea, financial decision, or way of inhabiting your body that keeps returning to your attention. Perhaps nothing is dramatically wrong, but the days have begun drifting into one another and there’s too little to anticipate.

You may already know a great deal about yourself. The problem is not a shortage of insight. It’s the distance between what you know and what your actual life has been allowed to show.

Elle begins there.

What’s my purpose now?

What am I still allowed to want?

What am I still allowed to believe is possible in this life?

You have been told in a thousand small ways that this asking is a problem to manage:

a failure of gratitude, a poor adjustment to aging, an unrealistic refusal to accept what is.

Elle is built on a different premise.

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The yearning is not the problem.

The yearning is the design.

Aristotle had a word for the inner force that draws a living thing toward its fullest expression: entelechy. In a human life, we may feel it as restlessness, curiosity, longing, or a quiet insistence that something still wants to happen.

The stirring is not proof that something is wrong with you. It is evidence that you are still in motion.

You do not need a fully formed goal, a dramatic reinvention plan, or perfect confidence to enter Elle. You need something with life in it—and a willingness to become more available to what it may be asking of you.

Eros pulls. Moxie moves.

Eros is larger than sexual desire. It’s the pull toward what awakens you: beauty, hunger, curiosity, intimacy, the work that’s been knocking on your interior door, the conversation you’ve been waiting to have. Eros is the part of you that recognizes what has life in it.

Moxie is more than spunk or sass. It’s nerve: the willingness to answer what’s calling even when your voice shakes. Moxie sends the note, names the desire, books the ticket, tells the truth, asks the question, draws the boundary, or makes the first inquiry.

Eros without Moxie becomes longing with excellent taste.

Moxie without Eros becomes hustle with better lipstick.

Elle brings them back into the same body. Eros gives direction. Moxie gives that direction a way into the world.

What happens inside Elle

1.

THE LISTENING

ATTUNEMENT

You notice what draws you, energizes you, or brings you alive without making it prove its usefulness.

2.

THE UNBURDENING

DISCERNMENT WITH LOVE

You recognize the role, rule, reflex, fear, or inherited instruction that speaks before choice has fully arrived.

3.

THE WANTING

DEVOTION

You let your desire matter without turning every desire into a project or demanding that it become immediately practical.

4.

THE RECKONING

REALITY CONTACT

You hold the hard fact in one hand and the luminous desire in the other. You ask what’s true, what’s been added to the fact, and what remains possible.

5.

THE MOVING

EMBODIMENT

You choose a right-sized move, make it exterior enough that something changes outside your head, and learn from what reality answers.

This is access and movement, not perfect mastery. You’re building an instrument you can use again.

Why five weeks?

One workshop can help you see the move. Five weeks gives you time to make it, meet the reflex that appears, learn from what reality answers, adjust, and move again—with the room still there.

That repetition is how insight becomes usable self-trust.

Each week, the work crosses from the room into your actual life. You’ll choose a move, receive a brief between-gathering pulse, and have one bounded buddy conversation with another woman in the cohort. Buddies are witnesses, not coaches or enforcers.

If you miss a gathering or lose momentum, you’ll receive a simple re-entry doorway: the central distinction, the practice, and the easiest way back in. Nobody has to catch up perfectly.

What becomes more available

By the end of Elle, you’ll have practiced:

❦ A clearer read on your own signal—without demanding that it arrive as a complete plan.

❦ A faster recognition of the voice that overrides you—the role, rule, reflex, or fear that volunteers, silences, edits, apologizes, delays, or makes your desire more convenient.

❦ A way to hold desire and real facts together—including money, health, time, caregiving, relationships, and other conditions that deserve honest attention.

❦ At least one right-sized move taken or deliberately chosen—small enough to be possible, real enough to produce new information.

❦ A repeatable instrument for listening, choosing, moving, learning, and moving again.

What might move in your life?

Elle isn’t built around one kind of goal. You may arrive with a clear decision, a desire you’ve postponed, or only a recurring sense that something in your life wants more room.

It may live in your work, money, home, body, relationships, creativity, leadership, friendship, travel, retirement, sensuality, rest, play, or public voice. It may be a room you want to claim, a class you’re curious about, a financial decision you want to face, a friendship you want to deepen, a boundary you want to draw, or work you can no longer keep putting off.

It may lead to a visible move in the world or a private choice that changes how you inhabit your own life.

The size of the desire isn’t a measure of its importance. Elle helps you listen for what’s alive, discern what’s truly yours, and find a right-sized way to respond.

Why the room matters

Desire lives inside a social field.

Sometimes the people who love us also know how to return us to the role they recognize: the dependable one, the peacekeeper, the expert, the one who can handle it, the one who doesn’t need much.

In Elle, an emerging desire doesn’t have to be defended before it’s fully formed. You’re witnessed without being fixed, hurried, flattened, or turned into a project. Other women help you stay in relationship with your own knowing when fear, practicality, or other people’s expectations get loud.

The room offers encouragement, reality contact, humor, tenderness, and the relief of not having to perform certainty. It doesn’t ask anyone to disclose more than she chooses, coach another participant, or produce a dramatic breakthrough on demand.

What happened when ten women entered Elle?

Every woman moved something that mattered.

The first Elle group brought together ten women with very different desires, circumstances, and places in their lives. Across five weeks, each woman made a move in her actual life.

Those moves included launching a podcast; enrolling in a seven-week writing course and beginning work on a television-series concept; beginning financial coaching and estate-planning action; claiming a physical room of her own; redesigning a social summer; expanding into public leadership; and participating in a sailboat race at seventy.

No two women were moving the same thing, and no one was handed a prescribed outcome. The common thread was that something important crossed from thought, desire, or intention into contact with the world.

The point wasn’t scale or drama. It was movement—and the new information, possibility, and self-trust that became available when reality answered back.

These are anonymized examples from the first Elle group. They describe moves made during the program, not guaranteed outcomes.

What’s on the table?

FIVE LIVE GATHERINGS. Four 90-minute gatherings and a two-hour finale. [INSERT THE CONFIRMED FULL SCHEDULE.]

DIRECT WORK WITH DEB. I lead every gathering myself—precise, alive, and attuned to what’s actually moving in the room.

A CLEAR FIVE-PART ARC. Listening, unburdening, wanting, reckoning, and moving build on one another rather than arriving as disconnected lessons.

LIVE COACHING AND WITNESSING. We slow down real decisions, patterns, and thresholds so one woman’s question can illuminate something useful for everyone. Participation is always invitational.

BETWEEN-GATHERING PRACTICE. Each week closes with one right-sized act that crosses from inside to outside, followed by a brief pulse about what moved, what became clearer, what got loud, and what support would help.

AN ELLE PARTNER. You’ll meet with the same woman for a 30-minute conversation between gatherings. Each of you will have time to share what’s moving, be heard without being fixed, and name what you want to carry into your actual life.

CURATED MATERIALS. Readings, prompts, frameworks, and tools support each week’s practice.

A PRIVATE COMMUNITY SPACE. Stay connected between gatherings and share what’s alive, difficult, funny, or moving.

REPLAYS AND A SIMPLE RE-ENTRY PATH. If you miss a gathering, use the recording plus a three-part note that helps you rejoin without catching up perfectly.

A TWO-HOUR FINALE. The final gathering is a harvest: what moved, what reality taught, what changed, and what you now know how to carry forward.

Hi, I’m Deb.

I created Elle because I kept meeting women who were capable, accomplished, perceptive—and tired of being so damn reasonable. Something in them was moving: a desire, a restlessness, a quiet “Why not me?” that had been patient long enough.

My gift is seeing the living thread: the thing you keep circling, dismissing, or explaining away as impractical, inconvenient, too late, too much—or, God forbid, too delicious.

In Elle, we slow down enough to hear it. Then we work with what rises around it: the reflex, the approval-trained yes, the practical voice that may be wisdom or may be fear wearing a cardigan. We don’t shame any of it. We bring love to what’s protected you, and then we find a move.

For eight years, I led live transformational seminars for groups of 50 to more than 200 people. I know how to create a room that’s personal, participatory, and consequential without making anyone perform or turning her into a project.

That’s Elle: a live room, a clear arc, and a way to bring what’s alive in you into contact with your actual life.

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Bring the desire.

We’ll work with the rest.

You don’t need to arrive certain. You don’t need a five-year plan or a polished goal. Bring something with life in it—a desire, a decision, a question, a recurring pull—and a willingness to meet it honestly.

ELLE — FALL 2026

A five-week practice in desire, discernment, and motion.

FIVE LIVE TUESDAYS

September 29

October 6, 13, 20, and 27

TIME

Gatherings 1-4

7-8:30 p.m. Eastern

Two-hour finale

October 27, 7:00-9:00 p.m. Eastern

Sessions are recorded, with replays and re-entry guidance available if you miss a gathering.

TUITION

$697 paid in full

Two monthly payments of $365 — $730 total

Club Moxie members receive 10% off with code MEMBERDISCOUNT.

Tuition is nonrefundable. Choosing the payment plan commits you to both payments.

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What women say after being in a Moxie room

  • Downloads

    "For the first time in my life, I realized I really am a special person. I'm not more special than anybody else, but nobody else is more special than I am."

    Melanie Stanton, sr director

  • "You've given me my MOXIE back."

    Diane Reed, CEO + author

  • “The everyday had pulled me into inertia. The work reconnected me to the possibility of being a vibrant, beautiful woman."

    Carole Baumgart, marketing executive

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FAQs

  • Five live Zoom sessions, one per week, Tuesdays at 7 pm Eastern. Gatherings 1–4 are 90 minutes. The finale is 2 hours.

    Sessions are recorded with replays available if you have to miss. That having been said, Elle is designed to be experienced live. That's where the work happens.

  • Elle is for you if:

    • You have done real interior work, and you are not interested in turning your life into another self-improvement project.

    • You are reaching for something larger, but you do not want to wait until you feel perfectly ready, healed, solvent, certain, organized, or approved.

    • You are tired of treating desire like a suspicious character who needs to show three forms of identification before entering the room.

    • You suspect the next move is not more information. It is more appetite, more discernment, and one honest move made in your actual life.

    • You are hungry for meaningful conversation with kindred women who are smart, generous, funny, and being real.

  • Three things. The work brings Moxie and Eros back into one body—desire and the courage to answer it, practiced as one. The room moves slowly enough for real work to happen, and nothing in it asks you to perform. And the experience is carefully structured so the work remains personal, participatory, and consequential—even in a room alive with many women.

  • Elle is probably not the right room if:

    • You are looking for someone to fix you.

    • You are in acute crisis and need clinical support.

    • You want to rehearse old wounds without moving.

    • You prefer insight without appetite.

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  • Every session is recorded. Elle is designed to be experienced live, but if a conflict arises, the recording is there and the cohort holds the space.

  • Because your registration reserves your place in the full five-week experience, tuition is non-refundable. Please say yes on purpose.

  • Club Moxie is our ongoing private community—the living room of the Moxie world. Members receive 10% off the current Elle tuition with code MEMBERDISCOUNT at checkout.

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